OK – Let’s give the Recession a break this time around and talk about something else for a bit. The Holy Grail of Life – the Secret to being successful.

It must be more than a coincidence – I looked closely at some immigrant families that  have migrated to the US,  and I saw that almost all of them have characteristics that fall into several of the following : Successful, Highly Educated, Thrifty, Rich, Happy…you get the drift. So I thought to myself, what are these folks doing that makes them so successful? They must have some magic mantra chant. My research led me to the following facts which seem to have a major influence upon their success:

1. Relationships are for keeps - If you want your partner to be perfect, then you’d better be perfect too. Since being perfect is impossible, it follows that neither you nor your partner is ever going to be perfect. So, once you enter a relationship, don’t take the easy exit. No relationship is going to be perfect, so learn to live with imperfections.

Financial Impact – No messy divorces, no alimony, peace of mind.

2. Stretch your legs only as far as the edge of the blanket you own - in other words, learn to live within your means. Of course, use credit if you must, but use it wisely. A friend of mine confessed that he was able to save about 45% of his monthly take home salary (ok, no mortgage), but isn’t that great? This rule would also mean – no maxed out credit cards, no new flashy car till the old one breaks down, no Bahamas cruises….and so on.

Financial implications – More money in the bank, more savings, emergency fund, secure future.

3. If you want something, be ready to give something up too - In other words, Sacrifice is the name of the game. You want an emergency fund in the bank? Then cut the cable TV out and watch TV online instead.  You want to visit your family back home abroad each year? Then skip that expensive 1080p Plasma TV. You want that nice family home in 10 years? Then replace the BMW buying plan with the Camry buying plan instead.

Financial Impact – Excellent long term returns.

4. Make your kids successful, sacrifice for them - We all want our kids to be successful. To ensure this, make sure you sacrifice your personal time. Are the kids exams nearing? Then, cut down on the outings to the mall and the TV times. Kids grades slipping? Punish the entire household by cutting TV time, Gifts, Movies and Outings. Ensure that the kids get the message that studies are critical – to everyone in the family. Who are the kids hanging out with after school? Make it your business to know.

Financial Impact – Comfortable old age. Rich kids pick out fancy nursing home for you in your old age.

5. Learn the value of money and teach it to the family as well, be frugal, not a Scrooge - Practice thrift and teach it to your kids too, but don’t go overboard. Buy the right stuff in the right place. Use coupons but avoid a coupon obsession. Cut the Plasma TV, but buy a good TV for the family room.  Buy that purse you liked, but stay within budget but buying it on sale instead. Get the kids the Wii, but only as a Birthday gift. Switch off the lights when you leave the room, but even more critical, ensure that the kids do it too. Give the nephew that birthday money, but as a Savings Bond, not cash to spend.

Financial Impact – More money in the bank, financially educated family, Excellent long term returns.

Buying a car

Let’s face it – a car is the first big purchase that one usually does all by oneself. The universe of cars is huge and at every step, you ask yourself – Am I making a mistake? This is exactly the situation that I found myself in a few weeks ago. My family and I had decided to buy a new (or maybe a used) car. While it will take a lot of effort to describe exactly how and why we decided what we did, the reason I’m writing this post is to highlight the best things to do and the best things to avoid.

One of the first things you do is to hit the Internet and look for tips on car-buying. Here are the top five tips and my take on each of them:

1. Lease or Buy – Almost every site that I read had the same view – it’s always better to buy than to lease. The only exception is if you are the type that changes card every two to three years – in which case you should consider leasing. However, for almost everyone else, buying is the best option.

My take – Unless you are in the business of impressing your friends with the latest trendy sports car every two years (and have a millionaire father to feed you), stick to the Buy option.

2. Used or New – Again, most websites recommend buying a slightly used car – one that is about two years old and has less than 25000 miles on the odometer. The common word is that new cars depreciate the most in the initial two years, so by buying used, you get the best bang for the lowest buck.

My take – Decide on the car based on several key questions – how much driving experience you (or your spouse has). For example, even if you are a great driver, your girlfriend may be a novice. In such case, stick to a 6 year old used car. How much you have saved – if you are a student still in college, stick to a cheaper car that you can junk after a few years. How long will you keep it – If you’re like me and intend to keep your car for 8 years or more, buy something that’s less than two years old and less than 20000 miles.

3. When to buy – Most websites advocate buying used cars in the November to December time frame because that’s when dealers are desperate to sell the outgoing model and will lavish out discounts.

My take – The above is true only if you are buying the current year’s model new. If buying used, go for the March to May period after winter. If buying new, September to October is best for the current year’s model so that there’s something left on the lot for you and December for the new year’s model so that the euphoria for the new model has died down and prices are more reasonable.

4. Finance – where to get it? – Most websites advocate getting finance from your local bank of better yet, a Credit Union.

My take – Who cares? Go for the lowest total payment you can afford. Do your homework well. Go to all the banks you can as well as all the Credit Unions and get the best deal that you can and get it written on paper. At the dealers showroom, show them the letter and ask them for a match. You’ll be surprised how effective this can be. Keep in mind at all times the total interest you will be paying i.e. monthly payment x number of months minus loan amount. Ensure that the option you choose from has this value as the minimum.

5. Trade In – The tipsters say you should trade in only if you must. Dealers are more interested in selling you a new car rather than giving you a good deal on your old one. You are better off selling it to a private party yourself.

My take – They are right on the mark on this one. Trade in only if you absolutely have to. You are better off detailing your vehicle and then selling it to a private party. use Craigslist and auto sales websites extensively and you will save a pile of money.

Do you have any more car buying tips? Let me know.

It all began when I visited our local grocery store here in Pittsburgh, PA with my four year old daughter (whom I fondly refer to as my four year old monster – but that’s a topic for another day). All I intended to buy was a loaf of Italian bread and some fruit. The list extended partly because my wife kept calling me to tell me about stuff that she’d remembered and partly because I remembered some other things as well.

So what did I end up buying, you ask? Here’s what I emerged with when I stepped out:

1 Italian bread sliced
5 bananas
1 Gallon of Milk (Whole)
1/2 Gallon of Milk (2%)
1/2 Gallon of Apple Cider
1 pound of salad from the Salad Bar
1 package of “Herbs for Fish”
1 bottle of Extra Virgin Olive Oil
1 package of carrots
1 pack of frozen peas
1 pack of Popcorn Chicken
1 pack of Portobello mushrooms (sliced)
1 pound of chicken

Additionally, I also had a personal pizza and a bottle of diet soda at their little kitchen outlet.

Needless to say, I exceeded my planned budget by about 250%. Of the entire list, what items did I really need? That’s easy, just the bread, bananas, peas and the milk.

Have you ever had buyer’s remorse when you returned from the supermarket or the grocery store? I have, on several occasions and I’m working out a strategy to deal with this sort of situation. I’ve got a lot of tips from various blogs on the Net as well. Here are the basic points to follow:

1. Keep a pad or a whiteboard on your freezer where you write down things you need/run out of – as you remember them. For example, when our toothpaste is about to run out, I write down “toothpaste” on it.
2. Set up a shopping schedule – so you don’t shop for groceries when you have “free time” – you shop when you hit your schedule time. For example, we try and shop every week and half (and never on weekends).
3. Shop on weekdays if possible. Shopping on weekdays equals lesser time to shop equals lesser money spent. It also means lesser crowds.
4. Ensure that you shop at the right place for the right items. For example, the local Wal-mart is great for branded, packaged goods such as Yogurt, Toothpaste and lightbulbs while the local grocery is best for veggies and greens.
5. Before you hit the store, grab a cup of coffee from home. That will avoid you hitting the in-store coffee shop. As you hit the store, remember that you are visiting to buy what you need – not what you “want to buy”. You are already armed with your shopping list and you stick to it.
6. As you go through the store, avoid talking to employees or tasting the free samples. Both of these equal more temptation to buy stuff you don’t need.
7. Take a basket, rather than a cart. The constantly increasing weight on your arm will warn you that you are splurging and stop you sooner.
8. At the checkout line, avoid the “easy to grab” stuff near the register – it’s designed to get you to buy stuff that maximizes store profits. If you want gum or soda pop, it should have been on your shopping list anyway.
9. When you pay, use a reward points or cash back card to maximize returns.
10. At the register, always remember to use your store-rewards card if they have one. For example, at our local grocery store, you get 1 cent off on gas each time you spend $5. Use these rewards to your advantage.

Do you have any other tips you would like to share? let me know.

It sounds quite surprising but it’s true – you can really save up to $200 a month by just fine tuning your breakfast meal – notice I said “fine-tuning”, not “skipping”.

If your morning routine is like mine, then you are having two cups of coffee every morning and a bite to eat. For me, the two coffees are at 7:30 am and 10:00 am every weekday when I go to the office. Right next to my office building is the local Starbucks and I should warn you that if they awarded bonus points for frequent customers, I’d be close to 500,000 points by now. The cost of all this extravagance is a cool $7.00 per day – because I really like their cappuccinos and mochas (and partly because I was lazy).

In addition to the coffee, I also like to eat a quick bagel with cream cheese or sometimes a Bagel with egg and cheese – usually the latter – at the local Bagel shoppe. The cost of this is between $2.25 to $3.20 per day. Therefore, my monthly breakfast cost was between $185 to $204 – or about $195 on average. In other words, every morning, I’ve been blowing about $10.00 per day or a cool $200 per month at minimum.

A few months ago, I decided to tighten up a bit (well, a lot actually) and this was one area I looked carefully a optimizing. So here’s what I do now:

1. When I leave the house in the morning at 6:45 am, my wife makes me a coffee and I carry it with me in a sealed coffee cup so that I can keep sipping it on the way to work. Cost of the coffee was $3, but it will last us for at least a month, so with milk and sugar, the daily cost would be about 25 cents at most.
2. Ditto for the breakfast – Bagels and cream cheese come much cheaper when you buy them in bulk and freeze them instead of buying them from the Bagel shop on a daily basis. Cost of a bagel with cream cheese would then be $1.00 while an egg and cheese bagel sandwich would be about $1.30 (estimated).
3. My second coffee of the day, which used to be a White Mocha, has now been changed to a small cup of Arabica from the office cafeteria. Cost of the cup is 94 cents in all.

Thus, with the above measures, my daily breakfast cost is between $2.19 to $2.49 which is a total of about $50 per month. Therefore, my monthly savings are $195 – $50 = $145. If you consider that most months have more than 20 working days or that I regularly use coupons to buy the bagels and cream cheese, then the savings would actually climb to more than $150 per month.

In addition to the above financial benefits, I’ve derived the following other benefits:

1. I’m using lesser cream cheese and cut my white mocha out – so my fat and cholesterol intake has reduced.
2. My homemade coffee is lighter and whiter so I’m basically cutting down on my caffeine intake too
3. I shut down my Starbucks credit card, thus reducing the temptation to drink even more coffee and spend even more money
4. I’m saving the time it takes me to walk down to the store and back, thus letting me work a little bit more and get more done at work.

Though I’ve made a great start, I haven’t really got all the way there yet. There are still some more things I could do to save even more:

1. Carry a little thermos so I can take more coffee from home and cut out that second cup from the office cafeteria (and save more too)
2. Kick the caffeine addiction altogether – good for my body and great for my wallet
3. Replace the Bagel addition with something healthier like cereal – more nutritious too.

Have you seriously considered tuning a meal to save money and eat healthier? Let me have your ideas.